Compassion and Patience Must Come From Both Parents and Children

Parents and children must know that perfection is not part of our natural nature. Learning through trial and error is the natural process of intellectual maturity.                                           Joan Jessalyn Cox ~ Sharable Quotes

It takes great compassion from both parents and children, during their growing seasons, to have patience and consideration toward one another when they disagree about something.

Experience drives home the lessons we need to learn. When we must either prove or disprove a concept by living through an incident, situation, or circumstance, we are learning through our experiences. When we must use our five senses to help us know whether our perception of that concept is right or wrong, we gain a more intense understanding through our experiential lessons.

We need the test of time, and trial and error, to challenge us and pose the questions we need answers to.  We can find the path we need to travel, to be all we can be as we become our original self, through our life lessons of trial and error.

Parents and children needs someone to guide them with patience and compassion, because we are all sensitive to people around us and their emotions affect the people whose life they touch to either inspire or destroy their human will.  

“For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope.  

Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be like minded one toward another according to Christ Jesus.”  Romans 15:4&5

When we pray our confidence grows according to our faith in Jesus Christ, and when you give your need to Jesus to be your strength and motivation, the Lord will get you to where He wants you to be.

The wisdom we gain when we know compassion is the better part of valor, is discovering the truth, to make necessary changes to transform our ways, by renewing our mind, and choosing to live according to God’s truth.

The human will must be engaged to make a significant change, you can only change according to the change in one’s personal choices in life. The human will is the mental faculty by which one deliberately chooses, or decides upon a course of action. Acting upon ones choice involves having a great enough desire, for implementing the energy and wisdom necessary to make any change, and especially a significant change in one’s life. Many times fear and worry will hinder, distract, detour, or destroy one moving toward a great change in their life.

Every one balks at change, the bigger the change appears to be, the more we dig our heels in the sand and stop all movement toward change. Many times change can’t come just by knowing it should happen. Sometimes it takes catastrophic things to happen before we are catapulted into action.

“Your will to do something substantial has to be driven by a great desire to make the move happen.”     Joan Jessalyn Cox ~ Sharable Quotes

You will not move until you want to move, whether you must change a job, associates, the place you live, or to seek a greater education you must experience the push of fire, in your desire to make life changes. We must always know we can do better no matter who we are.

“You won’t move until your spark of desire is set on fire. Some call it motivation, inspiration, or desperation.”      Joan Jessalyn Cox ~ Sharable Quotes

Parents may resist or hesitate at their own leap of faith in a significant change and turn the tide when dealing with a change in their child’s life. They might become excessively demanding when a child hesitates about a serious change in their own life.

 Patience in anyone’s life is needed when they need time to think on all that is necessary to make a great change. As a parent you must become the more mature one in how you treat a problem in your child’s life. Change is change whether small or great, and most must have time to decide to move on.

You must think through the misgivings you had before you could overcome your own desire to shirk a duty to change. When you wanted to remain in the comfort of your own well-worn way to live, it’s the same hurtle everyone must overcome to accept change.

How do you, as someone who has faced change and conquered your fears, help others to not only conquer their fears, but to create a desire to be transformed by renewing their mind? What do you say to people who not only need to have the desire to change, but to also be fortified enough to have the inner drive to do it?

How do you fire up people’s desire to climb victory mountain one step at a time?

Whoever you are inspiring with the truth of God’s word and urging them to move by his Holy Spirit in faith, will move when God’s ways in handling a change or situation is activated by prayer!

“Compassion is that tender hearted person who looks beyond one’s faults and sees their needs, to relieve hurts by forgiving the offender.”                                                                                  Joan Jessalyn Cox ~ Sharable Quotes

We find valor in that brave person, who sees all the wrong in another person, but will carry on with bold fortitude to stand up for truth, when someone else is resisting with aggressive force to stay caught in a web of evil.

Do you know someone that is caught in a web of evil, and it’s destroying their life? Do you have children that greatly need to be snatched out of the clutches of evil people’s influence?

A person who is so deceived by a false belief will curse and threaten you, to keep from accepting your confrontation with them about the truth, they may be a hard case indeed, but praying for them can help them come to the end of their rebellion.

A parent must be patience and forbearing like Jesus for the sake of the person poisoned enough to be engulfed with tormenting addictions, or led astray by overbearing people with penetrating lies. It might be your own child or the lost child of someone who is neglecting, or abusing the young person who cries in the dark.

 When young people are being controlled with threats on their life or with drugs, they need your courage to go above and beyond what you want to do. They need your compassion in order to help them be delivered from the evil clutches of those who want to destroy their life.

Raising children is the greatest challenge in life you can have, because you are required to wear many hats, so to speak, to cover all their emotional and spiritual needs, as well as their physical needs. You need to have the continuous support of the Lord through prayer, and the wisdom in how to approach a problem discreetly.

Your parental duties continue throughout your children’s life and continues on behalf of your grandchildren.

 Family traditions on how they handled problems in the past flows down through your family lineage, and through the family stories about their life experiences in the past, the family adds some ideas they used to survive.

Grandparents would tell their grandchildren about having everyone in the vicinity to bring their musical instruments over for a Saturday night sing. Old songs were sung and taught to the children, many times they sang hymns that they would sing at church the next morning.

The roots of Christianity remain strong in the family line and becomes the source of salvation for many of their offspring. Who doesn’t need the warmth of holy, heart-felt love to surround their life, along with the family members who love them enough to keep praying for them even when they seem their worst?

That legacy of loyalty in love, and the uniting force of faith in the Lord Jesus Christ through prayer, is the strength that will pull a family through the rough places in life and bring them back together.

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Love And Protect Your Children By Joan Jessalyn Cox

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“Be A Good Parent, because holding love in your heart for your child, shows your greatest desire is to love, protect and encourage them to become their best in life and express caring concern toward others.”       Joan Jessalyn Cox  ~ Sharable Quote

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Love And Protect Your Children: Be A Good Parent by Joan Jessalyn Cox is an impactful, inspiring Christian-based counseling book for parents. Based on Biblical principles and crafted with only the best intentions in mind for Christian parents, this is a well-written and thoughtful guide to raising children with a Christian attitude, and how to interact with others in a positive way–a way that will help them and serve them in meaningful ways. There are a lot of parenting books available, and some of them are faith-based, so this is meant for a Christian audience, but it also has the potential for a wide-reaching appeal, as the message promotes kindness, generosity, and helping your children by strengthening bonds and instilling positive moral behaviors.

Cox has conscientiously outlined lessons that help prevent family conflicts and problems, not just address them as they occur, which could be considered too late in some circumstances. Trouble can arise in any family, and the author is aware of this, so the angle of her book is all about prevention, and always being in teaching and leading mode with your children, as well as love mode, of course. Teachable moments are important points in the text, and I like how the author stresses the themes of helping others be happy and reaching out to others with advice and a listening ear.

Some of the lesson topics include manners, being more moral, having and sharing values, advice on marriage, fostering self-discipline, how to admonish a child in a positive way, and many more. Doing something nice for someone without expecting anything in return, or praising others for a job well done by saying “Good job!” are just two examples of these simple yet profound lessons. The concepts are heartfelt and easy to understand and convey to children and other parents. With so many children being neglected and abused, this book on how parents can love and protect them comes at the perfect time. Love And Protect Your Children: Be A Good Parent by Joan Jessalyn Cox is ideal for parents, grandparents, Christian counselors, and other faith-based helping professionals.

The Return of Jesus Christ in Christmas

The Return of Jesus Christ in Christmas

The cool evening night lit up gloriously when the angels appeared before the shepherds long ago near Bethlehem.

“And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over the flock by night.”

“And, lo the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid.”

“And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.”

“For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.”

“And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes lying in a manger.”

“And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying,”

“Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.”              Luke 2: 8-14

The announcement that a child was born, was of great importance to all who have heard about that glorious moment down through the ages. People of all nations have heard that long ago proclamation by the angels at Jesus Christ’s birth. The amazing announcement was to show why Jesus was born. The point of his birth was as bright as a beam from the star his purpose was to save humanity by being the only one who can and will forgive their many sins. It was to show his purpose of salvation by giving them a way of escape from the torment of lawlessness, and bring the means to have peace and good will toward all people.

Jesus Christ has been a glorious, holy spotlight of hope for a change in people’s heart in response to his holy words in the Bible, that taught all who came to him how to love with respect one for the other from the heart.

We find that the message of importance brought to our attention by the angels, was to seek Jesus Christ who as the holy Son of God came to change our heart and life to one of kindly service to the people around us. To be like Jesus we must be the peacemaker and the person who knows how to love with a pure, clean heart to help others to find rest and peace enough to show people who Jesus Christ is as Savior.

Jesus is the only one who can help us escape the pain and sorrow of lawlessness. He can help us find a life full of happiness, by his caring guidance in all we do. It happens because of the unique life of Jesus who is God born as a human being to show us the perfect example of how to live like Jesus Christ.

I remember the sweetness of honoring Jesus Christ at Christmas, through Christmas seasons of the past. When I was in the second grade, we had a Christmas play about Jesus Christ’s birth, and we sang Christmas carols.

When I returned home from school mother told me another surprise, we were to meet my dad after work for another Christmas treat.

It was a snowy evening as my mother and I walked several blocks to town to meet my dad after he got off work at 6:00. That walk is forever etched in my memory. The blue gray sky so full of the falling snowflakes, they were landing on my eyelashes, and whisper kissing my forehead and red cheeks with cool touches.

I still remember the smell of wood burning, that swirled through the air with the falling icy sting of the snow. We could see the colored lights of Christmas decorations as they started twinkling on and off as we neared downtown.

We were to have a Christmas treat before Christmas since we were so far away from our immediate family in Oklahoma.

It was pay day, and we were going to get to eat out, and go to a movie. The Christmas feel was evident everywhere even with the smell of evergreen trees floating in the fragrant air, so when the Church bells rang out and lingered in the icy smoke filled atmosphere, we longingly remembered Christmas back home.
We had big family gatherings on Christmas Eve and on Christmas day, and each event had their greatest emphasis on Jesus Christ, from reading of the Christmas story about Jesus Christs’ birth, to the Christmas carols so lovingly sung by all the family.

We reverenced Jesus Christ, his birth and his life, so much so that we all wanted to share his love and devotion with one another. We went to church, to hear sermons about Jesus Christ and his love for all people. We attended church plays about Jesus Christ’s birth, so each generation in the family would know the source of our faith in Jesus Christ and how and why we should strive to be loyal to him and become like him in our character.

I love to return to that simpler life of long ago, when Christmas focused on the life and birth of Jesus Christ and how his birth affected all of humanity. It brings warmth to the heart of everyone who has warm memories and stories of love for Jesus Christ and love for their family.

Calling all Christians, it’s time to return Jesus Christ in Christmas traditions.
~ Joan Jessalyn Cox


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I’m very close to completing my third book. I will give you more information later, since I have two more books in the works, I haven’t decided which book will be published first.

I’m excited I can hardly wait I have an even bigger surprise to announce in the New Year.

Don’t forget to give your friends and family  a copy of my books as each one is published. Everyone needs to have more hope, faith and truth in their life.

Give a gift of increased faith to all you care about, lift them up when they are down, and keep on praying to Jesus Christ. He answers your prayers, sincerely prayed in love according to his will. 

Tell your friends, neighbors and family about this blog they will read heart-warming true stories, that will lift up their faith in Jesus Christ. 

The Spirit Of Truth Is Power: Reviving Faith In Jesus Christ by Joan Jessalyn Cox

Victorious Faith In Jesus Christ: Creates Good Christian Conduct by Joan Jessalyn Cox


Blessed Are The Peacemakers!

“Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God.” Matthew 5:9

“I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, Lord, only makest me dwell in safety.” Psalms 4:8
What is the determination of self-worth? It is not the color of one’s skin that determines their worth. It is the goodness of one’s nature toward others that determines their self-worth. It’s their encouragement, and moral support to others in times of difficulty. It’s their giving and caring nature as they help others to pick them up when they are down.
People of every nation, and of every color should be given the human dignity, respect and attention to be accepted according to how they behave with others. A meaningful life is one that delivers good attitudes and actions, that goodwill toward others will benefit all who encounter a trustworthy person.
Trustworthy people are those who are always dependable to give their best to others. Consideration of other’s feelings are part of their consistent giving nature, and being helpful to all people.
Kindness given to people regardless of their differences gives them the dignity of being treated with respect when they are being respectful. It must be mutual to be a worthwhile social encounter. It can never be one-sided to be up-lifting in social value.
Yes, behavior is a major part of having a civilized social engagement.
Peace can never become a peaceful coexistence if everyone who is part of a peaceful process doesn’t know how to be peaceable. Peace and equality must be part of one’s moral standards shown in their own thinking and actions to be meaningful for their own life, and the lives they affect.
Peacemaking is a Jesus Christ-like influence, calming the “storms of life”.
It is the truth of God, that determines the depth of spiritual understanding, and the trustworthiness of each person according to their own individuality. It is the individuality that can be better attained when people don’t have to defend just being themselves.
When the individuality of a believer can be influenced, manipulated, or destroyed by an individual or dominate group, they are damaged in some way in their life. It will take sound profound truth to disentangle people from the lingering “bad results” of transgressing God’s and man’s laws. All one’s problems begins and are compounded when you trust the untrustworthy.
Peace is found in the peaceful principles that is brought into our heart and mind through the absolute truth of Jesus Christ found in the Holy Bible. Jesus was born that all that believed in Him could find peace when they lived a good life, filled with love for others and lived life filled with the mercy and compassionate heart-felt love of God. Peace can only come from those who live daily in a peaceful way and care for others more than themselves.
We find peace when we serve Jesus Christ who was born to bring peace, and good will to humanity.

“Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God.” Matthew 5:9

“I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, Lord, only makest me dwell in safety.” Psalms 4:8

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“Victorious Faith In Jesus Christ: Creates Good Christian Conduct”                                  by Joan Jessalyn Cox


Joan Jessalyn Cox Says

                                                           An Everlasting Difference

Knowing more about Jesus Christ can make an everlasting difference in your life!
“The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore, with loving kindness have I drawn thee.” Jeremiah 31:3
How do you make an everlasting difference in your life? You live a worthwhile life that gives meaning to your life, and touches those around you.
It sometimes takes a great spiritual awakening for people to be revived to be restored in faith in Jesus Christ, and confidence in oneself.
Faith, real strong faith in Jesus Christ, takes you out of the deep dark well of self, and selfishness, to become a more delightful giving person, because you have a different demeanor and outlook on life.
Most people go through life thinking I can’t make a real difference in my life. Who am I? How can I do something significant enough to help people I encounter daily?
I remember an incident that happened many years ago. It lingers in my mind as a time that made me see how easily it can become for anyone can make a difference.
We had taken my mother to see her doctor, the waiting room was full. Chairs lined the walls of the waiting room, the room was quite only gentle rustling noises were heard. There were about 20 people sitting in various moods, some were obviously in pain, others had the eyes shut, or were flipping the pages of well read magazines.
A young woman rushed in like the swift rush of cool air that whooshed through the door with her, she held her daughter in her arms. Mother and child were smiling as she sat her down on the floor with a grin, and the child waddle off to approach the first old woman, she saw. The mother went to the desk to sign in as the child smile up at the woman grabbed her hands to get her to play patty-cake. The old woman smiled and began to play with the child.
As the mother came back she began to talk to both people who sat on either side of her, a great smile on a homely face. I had unkindly thought as she came into the room that she looked homely.
The babe began to playfully engage the people with her joyous way, her mother kept her bright conversation going with different people in the room. She showed her warm loving way with the contented child. As I looked around the room, I saw people smiling and visiting with one another. The room had come alive with the lively loving mother and daughter. I glance back at the mother and saw a sparkle in her eyes as she talked with the old man beside her, heard her gently laughter, and I thought she looks so much more beautiful than I had first observed.
I saw a lifeless room full of worried, weary people come alive, and a young woman show her true inner beauty that made a difference to everyone with her lively caring presence.

“And that from a child thou hast known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.”   2 Timothy 3:15

“But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.” James 3:17      By Joan Jessalyn Cox~ Read more in my books

The Spirit Of Truth Is Power: Reviving Faith In Jesus Christ by Joan Jessalyn Cox

Victorious Faith In Jesus Christ: Creates Good Christian Conduct by Joan Jessalyn Cox

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